Securing Healthy Attachment with God and Parents: First Step in Building Resilience in Children
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
I. Case Study
III. Chapter goals
- What is the importance of attachment in parenting and how can it affect spiritual and mental health?
- What do the Qur’an and Hadith teach us about attachment?
- How can parents foster their children’s attachment to Allah?
- What are concrete everyday actions I can take to help increase my child(ren)’s attachment to Allah?
- What are some important considerations I should keep in mind as I’m trying to foster healthy attachment in my child(ren)?
IV. Foundational concepts: The importance of attachment
- Your attachment style predicts how you relate to your spouse, your children, and your overall parenting style.
- Your attachment style shapes and affects how your child relates to others.
- Having a healthy attachment style will set your child up for better mental health and healthier relationships in life.
- Unhealthy attachment styles can negatively affect the quality of relationships and can be a major contributor to poor mental and physical health.
- Positive relationships increase resilience by offsetting the harmful effects of difficult life experiences.
Attachment to Allah
And remember when Luqmān said to his son, while advising him, “O my dear son! Never associate anything with Allah in worship, for associating others with Him is truly the worst of all wrongs.”
Central to the application of attachment theory to religion is the idea that for many people God may function psychologically as an attachment figure (Kirkpatrick, 1992, 1999). People perceive God to be a safe haven in times of crisis (cf. Collins and Feeney 2000; Kirkpatrick 1999) and a secure base from which to explore when out of harm’s way (cf. Ainsworth et al. 1978; Bowlby 1988; Kirkpatrick 1999).
One day I was riding [a horse/camel] behind the Prophet ﷺ when he said, “Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of God, and He will take care of you. Be mindful of Him, and you shall find Him at your side. If you ask, ask of God. If you need help, seek it from God. Know that if the whole world were to gather together in order to help you, they would not be able to help you except if God had written so. And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if God had written so. The pens have been lifted, and the pages are dry.”
Security: “Be mindful of God, and He will take care of you.”
Responsiveness: “Be mindful of Him, and you shall find Him at your side.”
Strength/Safe Haven: “And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if God had written so.”
If you ask, ask God. If you need help, seek it from God. Know that if the whole world were to gather together in order to help you, they would not be able to help you except if God had written so. And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if God had written so. The pens have been lifted, and the pages are dry.
And He will provide for them from sources they could never imagine. And whoever puts their trust in Allah, then He [alone] is sufficient for them. Certainly Allah achieves His Will. Allah has already set a destiny for everything.
The specific role of tawḥīd in resilience
Narrated by ʿAbd-Allāh: I visited Allah’s Messenger ﷺ while he was suffering from a high fever. I said, “O Allah’s Messenger ﷺ! You have a high fever.” He said, “Yes, I have as much fever as two men.” I said, “Is it because you will have a double reward?” He said, “Yes, it is so. No Muslim is afflicted with any harm, even if it were the prick of a thorn, but that Allah expiates their sins because of that, as a tree sheds its leaves.”
Zayd b. Arqam said: I had a pain in my eyes and the Prophet ﷺ visited me and said, “Zayd, if your eyes were to go blind because of their illness, what would you do?” I said, “I would be steadfast and reckon my reward to be with Allah.” He said, “If that happens to your eyes and you are steadfast and reckon your reward to be with Allah, then your reward will be the Garden.”
V. Conceptually fostering attachment and reliance on Allah
Proximity, accessibility, and responsiveness
- Answering your child when they call you. If you are busy, be available when you say you will be available (“I’m in the middle of something, give me 10 minutes”).
- Showing undivided attention when your child is talking about something important.
- Following through with commitments and promises.
- Physical touch, like a pat on the back or a hug.
When My servants ask you [O Prophet] about Me: I am truly near. I respond to one’s prayer when they call upon Me. So let them respond [with obedience] to Me and believe in Me, perhaps they will be guided [to the Right Way].
Indeed, [it is] We who created humankind and [fully] know what their souls whisper to them, and We are closer to them than [their] jugular vein.
Abū Saʿd al-Khudrī reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “No Muslim makes supplication—unless he is someone who has cut off his relatives—but that he is given one of three things: either his supplication is answered quickly, or it is stored up for him in the next world, or an evil equal to it is averted from him.” It was said, “Then many supplications will be made.” He ﷺ replied, “Allah has more still to give.”
- Discussing the above verses (āyāt) and hadith in an age-appropriate manner, emphasizing in a comforting way that Allah is always with your child.
- Exploring and talking about related names of Allah like: the All-Knowing (al-ʿAlīm), the All-Hearing (al-Samīʿ), the All-Seeing (al-Baṣīr), the Responder (al-Mujīb), and the Provider (al-Razzāq).
- Teaching your child the etiquette of supplicating (duʿāʾ), and emphasizing that Allah always hears their call.
- Teaching the practice of gratitude. Oftentimes, after a duʿāʾ has been answered, we forget how badly we wanted that coveted thing before we got it. If you observe one of your child’s duʿāʾs being answered, point it out to them and practice gratefulness with them.
- Share stories with your child about the beautiful ways Allah has responded to your duʿāʾ and guided you through different stages in your life. Children love to hear stories from their parents’ lives and in this way a connection and attachment to Allah is brought to life for them.
- Talk to your older children about how Allah responds to Muslims in formal prayer. The following hadith illustrates Allah’s responsiveness:
It was narrated that Abū Hurayra said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say: Allah said: ‘I have divided the prayer between Myself and My slave into two halves, and My slave shall have what he has asked for.’ When the slave says: ‘Al-ḥamdu li-llāhi rabb al-ʿālamīn (All praise is for Allah, the Lord of all that exists),’ Allah says: ‘My slave has praised Me, and My slave shall have what he has asked for.’ And when he says: ‘Al-Raḥmān al-Raḥīm (The Most Gracious, the Most Merciful),’ Allah says: ‘My slave has extolled Me, and My slave shall have what he has asked for.’ And when he says: ‘Māliki yawm al-dīn (The Only Owner [and the Ruling Judge] of the Day of Recompense),’ Allah says: ‘My slave has Glorified Me. This is for Me, and this verse is between me and My slave in two halves.’ And when he says: Iyyāka naʿbudu wa iyyāka nastaʿīn (You [Alone] we worship, and You [Alone] we ask for help),’ He says: ‘This is between Me and My slave, and My slave shall have what he has asked for. And the end of the Qur’anic chapter (sūra) is for My slave.’ And when he says: Ihdinā al-ṣirāṭ al-mustaqīm, ṣirāṭ al-ladhīna anʿamta ʿalayhim ghayr-il-maghḍūbi ‘alayhim wa lā al-ḍāllīn (Guide us to the Straight Way, the way of those on whom You have bestowed Your grace, not [the way] of those who earned Your anger, nor of those who went astray),’ He says: ‘This is for My slave, and My slave shall have what he has asked for.’”
A Protector providing safety
- Believing your child when they come to you with concerns. Validate and take their concerns seriously.
- Valuing your child’s opinions and perspectives. Don’t automatically discredit your child if someone makes an accusation against them. Truth and justice are not based on age.
- Assuring your child that you always have their best interests in mind even if they might not like your rules (e.g., setting healthy limits).
- Comforting your child when they get hurt emotionally or physically.
- Keeping discussions about adult concerns (i.e., finances, health, marital issues, etc.) between adults and not involving your child in these matters.
Allah is the Guardian of the believers—He brings them out of darkness and into light. As for the disbelievers, their guardians are false gods who lead them out of light and into darkness. It is they who will be the residents of the Fire. They will be there forever.”
But no! Allah is your Guardian, and He is the best Helper.
Say, “Nothing will ever befall us except what Allah has destined for us. He is our Protector.” So in Allah let the believers put their trust.
- Discussing prophetic stories that demonstrate Allah’s protection against evil people and things, as well as narratives that show perseverance of Muslims in the face of powerful adversaries who plotted against them. A few stories that beautifully highlight Allah’s protection and guidance are the stories of the prophets Joseph (Yūsuf), Moses (Mūsa), and Abraham (Ibrāhīm) (peace be upon them).
- Helping children to understand that Allah as our Walī manifests in ways that are not always what we want. He aids us in accordance with the infinitely wise perspective of the Divine and not from the limited perception of the human. Therefore, the presence of Allah’s care is not synonymous with the fulfillment of our wants. Indeed, His aid and care will often manifest in worldly pain and loss. For example, the People of the Ditch mentioned in Surat al-Burūjwere all killed by a tyrant ruler despite their unshakeable belief in Allah. Although people might see this as a great loss rather than success, Allah declared their martyrdom and entrance to Paradise as the great victory.Thus, His aid and support is not understood as making us outwardly victorious over our enemies, but rather making no enemy able to overpower our will to worship Allah.
- Reading age-appropriate versions of the prophetic biography (sīra). Discuss Allah’s protection of Prophet Muhammed ﷺ throughout his life, from infancy through late adulthood.
- Exploring and talking about related names of Allah, like The Guardian (al-Muhaymin), The Capable, The Powerful (al-Qādir), The Judge, Giver of Justice (al-Ḥakam), and The Helper, The Supporter (al-Walī). Examples are provided at the end of the paper.
- Teaching your child duʿāʾs to help them seek Allah’s protection and empowering them to call on Allah on their own. An excellent duʿāʾ that is easy for children to remember is:
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لاَ يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَىْءٌ فِي الأَرْضِ وَلاَ فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ
Bism-illāhi al-ladhī lā yaḍurru maʿa ismihi shayʾun fī-l-arḍi wa lā fī-l-samāʾi wa huwa al-Samīʿu al-ʿAlīm.
Translation: In the Name of Allah, with Whose Name nothing is harmed on earth nor in heaven, and He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing. (Repeat three times)
Abān ibn ʿUthmān said: I heard ʿUthmān ibn ʿAffān [his father] say: I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say: If anyone says three times: “In the name of Allah, when whose name is mentioned nothing on Earth or in Heaven can cause harm, and He is the Hearer, the Knower,” he will not suffer sudden affliction till the morning, and if anyone says this in the morning, he will not suffer sudden affliction until the evening.
A secure base
- Physical touch, such as hugging, high-fiving, or sitting close to each other.
- Genuine interest in helping your child when they are in distress—taking care of them when they are sick, wiping their tears when they are hurt, and empathic attunement when they are experiencing difficult feelings.
- Verbally assuring them of support when they are uncertain about what to do next: “You can do it,” “I’m here behind you,” “I’ve got your back if you fumble.”
- Telling your child that they can always turn to you no matter how advanced their age or how big their mistakes might be.
Narrated by ʿUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb: Some war prisoners were brought before the Prophet ﷺ and a woman amongst them was breastfeeding any child in need. Whenever she found a child amongst the captives, she took it to her chest and nursed it (she had lost her child but later she found him). The Prophet ﷺ said to us, “Do you think that this lady would throw her son in the fire?” We replied, “No, if she has the power not to throw him [in the fire].” The Prophet ﷺ then said, “Allah is more merciful to His slaves than this lady to her son.”
Say, [O Prophet] “If you [sincerely] love Allah, then follow me; Allah will love you and forgive your sins. For Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
Ask forgiveness from your Lord and repent to Him. Verily, my Lord is Merciful and Loving.
Remember Me; I will remember you. And thank Me, and never be ungrateful.
Abū Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Allah says: ‘I am just as My slave thinks of Me when he remembers Me.’ By Allah! Allah is more pleased with the repentance of His slave than one of you who unexpectedly finds in the desert his lost camel. ‘He who comes closer to Me one span, I come closer to him a cubit; and he who comes closer to Me a cubit, I come closer to him a fathom; and if he comes to Me walking, I come to him running.’”
Abū Hurayra narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “When Allah loves a slave He calls Gabriel [saying]: ‘Indeed I love so-and-so, so love him.’ He said: “So he calls out in the heavens. Then love for him descends among the people of the earth. That is as in the saying of Allah: Verily, those who believe and work deeds of righteousness, the Most Gracious will grant love for them (19:96). And when Allah hates a slave, He calls out to Gabriel, [saying]: ‘Indeed I hate so-and-so.’ So he calls out in the heavens. Then hatred for him descends upon the earth.”
- Developing a sense that Allah wants best for His creation by illustrating how Allah provides for all of His creation, big and small.
- Exploring and discussing the names of Allah like al-Laṭīf (The Subtle, Most Gentle), al-Raḥmān (Most Gracious), al-Raḥīm (Most Merciful), al-Wadūd (Most Loving), al-Raʾūf (Most Kind) and al-Shakūr (Most Appreciative).
- Explaining that during times of distress one can always call on Allah and seek comfort from Him. Children can always vent to Allah, seek His support, and ask for His help.
- Talking with children about how Allah is the Most Merciful and that while sins are to be avoided, Muslims should never despair of the mercy of Allah or think that their sins are too great for Allah to forgive.
Integral supplemental attachments
Attachment to the Qur’an
This is the Book about which there is no doubt, a guidance for those conscious of Allah.
O mankind, there has come to you instruction from your Lord and healing for what is in the breasts and guidance and mercy for the believers.
Allah! There is no deity except Him, the Ever-Living, the Sustainer of [all] existence. Neither drowsiness overtakes Him nor sleep. To Him belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth. Who is it that can intercede with Him except by His permission? He knows what is before them and what will be after them, and they encompass not a thing of His knowledge except for what He wills. His Seat [of power] extends over the heavens and the earth, and their preservation tires Him not. And He is the Most High, the Most Great.
Allah has guaranteed for one who follows the Qur’an that he will not be led astray in the world, nor be damned in the hereafter. Then, he recited the verse, “Thus, whoever follows My guidance will neither go astray [in this life] nor suffer [in the next.]”
The heart on its journey towards Allah the Exalted is like that of a bird. Love is its head and fear and hope are its two wings. When the head is healthy, then the two wings will fly well. When the head is cut off, the bird will die. When either of its two wings is damaged, the bird becomes vulnerable to every hunter and predator.
Surely in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find comfort.
No people gather to remember Allah Almighty but that the angels surround them, cover them with mercy, send tranquility upon them, and mention them to Allah among those near to Him.
Al-Barāʾ b. ʿĀzib reported: A man was reciting Sūrat al-Kahf and in his barn was an animal which became unsettled. As he looked, there was a mist or a cloud overshadowing him. He mentioned that to the Prophet ﷺ and he said, “Continue reciting, for it was calm that descended with the Qur’an.”
- Nurturing frequent family Qur’an time. Depending on the age of your child, this can include listening to sūras in the car, reading a few verses together each day, listening to a lecture on the tafsīr of a certain sūra, and learning the meaning of a few verses together.
- Engaging with the Qur’an as a source of stability. For example, listening to Qur’an during calm moments (i.e., before bed), allows children to unwind and provides a stable, consistent routine. The Qur’an should also be invoked during moments of emotional turmoil to provide a sense of connection with both Allah and you, as their parent (e.g., reciting innā li-llāhi wa innā ilayhi rājiʿūn when something difficult happens).
- Discussing the way that certain verses resonate with you and apply to your daily life. For example, since gratitude plays a role in resilience-building,when discussing the verse in Sūrat al-Fātiḥa, “All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds”you may ask your children what they are grateful to Allah for and list some of your more cherished blessings.
- Exploring the Qur’anic stories of the Prophets, righteous individuals, and individuals who gained the love of Allah, as well as the lessons derived from them.
- Identifying positive traits exemplified in the Qur’an as the qualities of the people of jannah and how these traits might show up in daily life. Ask them if they’ve ever exemplified these traits, and to imagine when these traits would be helpful (e.g., waiting for their turn in line showing patience). For older children, also identify the traits of the people of the hellfire and discuss ways to protect ourselves from these qualities (i.e., arrogance).
- Going through verses describing jannah and having your child share what they visualize as they hear these verses. Ask them what they are praying for in jannah. For younger children, encourage them to draw a picture of their house in jannah and put it in a place they can see frequently. This is similar to a safe space exercise often used in therapy to manage anxiety, so it can help with emotional regulation and therefore resilience building.
- Asking your child if they have a favorite verse from the Qur’an. If they don’t, help them to choose one. Have them write or print this verse, decorate it, and place it somewhere visible in their room as a beneficial reminder and a way to personally connect with the Qur’an. Repeating this verse as a mantra can help promote emotional regulation and increased wellbeing.
Attachment to the Prophet ﷺ
It was narrated that Anas ibn Mālik said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “None of you truly believes until I am more beloved to him than his child, his father, and all the people.”
Narrated Anas: The Prophet ﷺ said, “Whoever possesses the following three qualities will have the sweetness of faith:
1. The one to whom Allah and His Apostle become dearer than anything else.
2. Who loves a person and he loves him only for Allah's sake.
3. Who hates to revert to disbelief as he hates to be thrown into the fire.”
Narrated ʿAbd Allāh b. Hishām: We were with the Prophet ﷺ and he was holding the hand of ʿUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb. ʿUmar said to him, “O Allah's Messenger! You are dearer to me than everything except my own self.” The Prophet ﷺ said, “No, by Him in Whose Hand my soul is, [you will not have complete faith] till I am dearer to you than your own self.” Then ʿUmar said to him, “However, now, by Allah, you are dearer to me than my own self.” The Prophet ﷺ said, “Now, O ʿUmar, [now you are a believer].”
There certainly has come to you a Messenger from among yourselves. He is concerned by your suffering, anxious for your well-being, and gracious and merciful to the believers.
Anas b. Mālik reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “I wish I could meet my brothers.” The Prophet’s companions said, “Are we not your brothers?” The Prophet ﷺ said, “You are my companions, but my brothers are those who have faith in me although they never saw me.”
ʿAbd Allāh b. ʿAmr b. al-ʿĀṣ (may Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet ﷺ recited the Words of Allah, the Exalted, and the Glorious, about Ibrāhīm (as) who said: “O my Lord (Rabb)! They have led astray many among mankind. But whosoever follows me, he verily, is of me” (14:36) and those of Jesus (ʿĪsā) who said: “If You punish them, they are Your slaves, and if You forgive them, verily, You, only You, are the All-Mighty, the All-Wise” (5:118). Then he ﷺ raised up his hands and said, “O Allah! My ummah, my ummah,” and wept; Allah, the Exalted, said: “O Gabriel (Jibrīl)! Go to Muhammad and ask him: ‘What makes you weep?’” So Jibrīl came to him and asked him [the reason for his weeping] and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ informed him what he had said (though Allah knew it well). Upon this Allah said: “Jibrīl, go to Muhammad and say: ‘Verily, We will please you with regard to your ummah and will never displease you.’”
Abū Hurayra said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Every Messenger is endowed with a prayer which is granted and by which he would (pray to his Lord) and it would he granted for him. I have, however, reserved my prayer for the intercession of my ummah on the Day of Resurrection.”
- Reading the Prophet’s biography (sīra) together, beginning with simple stories in early childhood and more in-depth biographies later.
- Discussing the adversities the Prophet ﷺ experienced in his lifetime (from the stress of first hearing the message of prophethood, to the death of Khadīja or Ibrāhīm, to remorseless persecution meted out by the Quraysh, etc.) and the ways he coped (praying, making duʿāʾ to Allah, seeking help from dependable people, etc.). For more details about the experiences of the Prophet ﷺ, consider some of the book recommendations listed at the end of this paper.
- Identifying and discussing some of the most admirable attributes of the Prophet ﷺ such as his perseverance, dedication, and integrity. Discuss why these qualities are desirable, and how they might look in your child or in people your child knows.
- Discussing the Prophet’s ﷺ love for the ummah and how that includes your child as well. Visualize with your child the happiness of meeting him in jannah.
- Describing the appearance of the Prophet ﷺ to your child so they can feel closer to him.
Community and group affiliation
VI. Important considerations
VII. Case study revisited
VIII. Conversation starters
- Make the duration of any mini-lesson appropriate for its audience. If these conversations are too lengthy, neither you nor your children will look forward to them because they are draining. Around 15-20 minutes is usually a good length .
- Make mini-lessons appropriate for the audience in terms of content. Small children are naturally drawn to arts and crafts, so drawing pictures with markers, for instance, can be appealing to them. If your oldest and youngest are separated by a wide age gap, consider splitting responsibilities so that one parent works with the older children and the other parent works with the younger children.
- Do not make this activity/conversation too burdensome in terms of preparation because you most likely will not follow through. Prepare for 5-10 minutes by pulling relevant āyāt, hadiths, or even material from this article.
- If you ever get stuck with a tough question from your child, don’t fret. Tell your child that you will look into it further and get back to them. This can be a learning moment for you both.
- What does physical, spiritual, and emotional closeness (proximity) mean to you?
- How do we know that Allah is close to us and can hear us?
- What are examples of times your duʿāʾ was answered? (topic: responsiveness)
- Why might it appear that a duʿāʾ is unanswered? What are the different ways duʿāʾ can be answered?
- What acts of worship make you feel closer to Allah?
- What are acts of worship that make you feel closer to us (family, parents, siblings)?
- What are acts of worship that make you feel closer to the community?
- On a scale of 0 to 10, how close do you feel we are as a family? What things can be done to increase that closeness?
- Is there anything you are going through right now that would be helpful to talk about?
- If there ever is something that might be tough to talk about, how would you envision talking to us about it? What steps would you take?
- What are ways that we can show each other that we care and are close through our words and actions?
- What are ways that we can show Allah that we love Him and are grateful for Him?
- What do physical, spiritual, and emotional safety mean to you?
- What are tools Allah has blessed us with to protect our sense of safety?
- Let's look through the names of Allah together. Which ones related to safety jump out at you? Pick one name that you can start using in your duʿāʾs or when you are feeling scared.
- Can you think of examples in which Allah protected the prophets?
- Can you think of examples in which Allah kept you safe or protected you from harm?
- What are precautions we take as a family to promote physical and emotional safety?
- On a scale of 0 to 10, how safe do you feel in this family? What are things we can do to increase your sense of safety?
- When you are outside of the home or away from the family, what things can you use to feel safe?
- What are tools you can use to feel emotionally safe in general (duʿāʾ, deep breathing, grounding, etc.)?
A secure base
- What is a secure base? Is it like a baby bird that can come back to its nest anytime he or she wants? Is it like a safe tree when you are playing tag, or perhaps home base out on the baseball field? Let’s draw a picture of what a secure base means to you.
- How is our relationship with Allah like a secure base?
- Can you think of any examples in which the prophets or other people in the Qur’an used Allah as a secure base during a difficult time?
- Is it possible that a Muslim can ever mess up so badly that Allah can no longer be their safe base?
- Is it possible that you can ever mess up so badly that we, your parents, can no longer be your safe base?
- If you don't know how to get back to your safe base with Allah, what dhikr or duʿāʾ can you recite? (I seek Allah’s forgiveness (astaghfiru-llāh), there is no power nor might except with Allah (lā ḥawla wa lā quwwata illā bi-llāh), etc.)
- What might be a code word for when you want to talk to us about something but feel shy or scared?
- If anyone ever says something that doesn't sound right (maybe it breaks a rule or goes against something that was taught to you), what should you do? Is it better to figure it out on your own or can you talk to adults you trust like us (your safe base)?
- If something bad happens to you, should you tell your parents only, talk to Allah about it only, or do both?
- If something really difficult happens to you, how would you feel about talking to us (parents) about it? If you are in trouble, is it better to come straight away to us and risk punishment, or is it better to wait it out?
IX. Conversation starters and stories
i. Allah as Our Protector
Say, “Nothing will ever befall us except what Allah has destined for us. He is our Protector.” So in Allah let the believers put their trust.
- How do we see the protection of Allah in the story of the spider and the cave?
- Can you name five things al-Muhaymin has kept safe and protected for you today?
- Can you remember a time when something bad could have happened but it didn’t? What happened? How did Allah protect you?
- Visualize: Does an image come up when you picture the protection of Allah? (e.g., being surrounded by beautiful light; being wrapped in a protective blanket; Allah sending an angel to protect you, etc.). Describe it and think about how it makes you feel when you picture yourself surrounded by His protection.
ii. Allah is always near
When it occurred to the Prophet Yūnus, upon him be peace, to call upon Allah in these words when he was in the belly of the great fish, he said, “There is no god worthy of worship except You, exalted are You. Indeed, I have been of the wrongdoers.” This call went and hovered around the (mighty) Throne, and the angels said, “O Lord, this is the voice of one who is weak but known, in a faraway strange land.” Allah, may He be exalted, said, “How do you know this?” They said, “O Lord, who is he?'” Allah, may He be exalted, said, “My servant Yūnus.” They said, “Your servant Yūnus, from whom there kept coming acceptable deeds and supplications which were answered!” They said, “O Lord, will You not have mercy on him for what he did during his time of ease, and save him from this trial and tribulation?” He said, “Of course.” So, He commanded the great fish, and it cast him forth on the naked shore.
Indeed, it is We who created humankind and fully know what their souls whisper to them, and We are closer to them than their jugular vein.
- Allah is always with you through His knowledge. Unlike anyone else—even your loved ones—He knows when you are sad, need Him, or want to be closer to Him. The Heavens might feel far away, but Allah is not.
- Any time you make a mistake you can turn back to Allah through the power of duʿāʾ. Allah is not like a friend or family member, where when you mess up the relationship could be over or beyond repair. Allah always wants you to come back to Him.
And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me – indeed I am near (qarīb).
Indeed, He is Hearing and near.
Indeed, my Lord is near and responsive.